I had the pleasure of writing an article for Secret Birds HQ, which is a community of women entrepreneurs in emerging markets (and not only:)). Here’s the link to the article, I will just paste here one piece I liked:
‘3.What are skills muscles?
Our skills muscles are our internal resource of strength. I call them personal skills muscles because they vary from individual to individual. Let me give you an example.
Just as some of us are naturally good at singing, drawing or cooking, they can also be naturally good at presenting, or giving feedback or negotiating. These I call our strong skills muscles (or strengths, which is quite vague), the ones that we discover early on that we like using. It’s those skills that we use with ease, anytime, anywhere, because we know they benefit us big time.
Others may naturally be not inclined to draw or sing or dance, in the same way they are naturally not inclined to manage conflict, or speak in front of big groups. These I call our dormant skills muscles (or weaknesses, the more popular term which I don’t agree with). These are the muscles we kept asleep for a long time, most often because we were afraid to use them. Afraid of being judged by others or of making a fool of ourselves, usually because that’s what happened when we once, a long time ago, used them, and they didn’t benefit us at all, even worse, they made us look bad (again, most often, in our own head, not to others). It’s usually those muscles for which we use the phrase “oh, I don’t do speaking, I’m such a poor speaker” or “I keep myself away from conflicts, not my thing”. And it’s also usually that we do realize, deep down, how bad we’d need to use these asleep muscles and how much we’d benefit from doing that. It’s just that, after such a long sleep, we rarely even remember they’re there.’
You can read the rest of the article here, enjoy: https://secretbirdshq.com/roxana-radulescu-romania-skills-muscles-change-way-deal-change/